I guess I owe words to everyone who have been reading and posting. Firstly, I will apologize for the absence for the last few days, not just from the blog but from the overall community. Where to start, where to start. For me, the last few days have been the hardest that I’ve been struggling in most recent times, I will be honest I haven’t been able to keep up with working out alongside the P90X work outs. I am a person who is not easily overwhelmed but when it happens – I tend to have a hard time finding the strength to really function properly. Am I a depressed person ? Normally, yes – yet when I find myself around Elisha, its so hard to be miserable, not for the account of acting differently. Its just that she somehow rids me of my misery, I don’t have to act around her, I just simply am. Do I act ? Yes, I think we all do. Myself, I act very differently when around my family. I mentioned before that I am a self harmer, and its due to that negative coping mechanism on my part that I have a hard time functioning – some of my family knows and some of them do not. Either way, none of them really understand just how hard things tend to get for me. I don’t think everyone really understands just how hard on myself I get, I do make excuses for myself, I try to justify everything but more so than anything – I try to give excuses to those who treat me poorly and I accept it. From the P90X Kenpo X post until now, my family have been preparing for my grandparents fiftieth wedding anniversary. It has been really stressful on me since I’ve been the one that everyone seems to have apparently nominated to get things in cleaned up around the house. So I spent a day moving office furniture out of the back room so that a carpet can be installed, to which I hurt my back on it, I tried to say no but, to which I was berated, and well, like Elisha would say ‘ I caved ‘
Which brings my thoughts to another subject, the woman that I love – Elisha. From the writing of P90X Kenpo X until now she asked me a question, to move over to the States with her, and her family when they came to visit for my grandparents fifteith wedding anniversary. With that question brought force the most difficult thinking of a long time. To some it’d be easy, yet, for Elisha and I – things are very difficult. We live two and a half hours away from one another, but that two and a half hours is seperated by an international border. She is American, and I – Canadian. We found one another on the internet, started chatting for hours without exhaust, and then met – not long after having started talking with one another. That first moment I met her, I just knew that my life with her was about to begin anew – if I’d let it. I’ve been under the stress from others, who’ve said that love will get you so far but then you have to be realistic, that love can’t keep a roof over your head, or food on the table. I’ve believed that, and I’ve let that thinking rule me, I’ve believed my family, and in all honesty, that’s how I was raised to believe that money is required for everything. In preparing for the wedding, I’ve been working in my family’s delivery business, and for years I just really was able to take the bit of money that I needed in order to get by month to month – year to year. It wan’t until April that I actually started to get paid, and I thought that things would change, especially with getting a steady income, finally. I worked hard, I made it through the month, Elisha worried, and yet, I found accomplishment from it, I was about thirteen hundred dollars richer, to me that was something, since I’ve never had that much money really, that in years I’ve never had that much in my pocket. I felt so happy walking around with a thousand dollars in twenty dollars bills in my pocket. I mean for the wedding, it’d help pay so much, it’d help so much for starting out our lives together since she is young, and I – well, I have just been too trusting of my family. Most of it has been my fault, since I just didn’t really care, I didn’t really care about much until I met Elisha, then I just started to figure out things, I worried about things – I had to get my life back together. That was my main focus, to get my life together for the benefit of her, so we could be together. I’ve felt that I’ve needed money for the last while now, that I’ve put a rift in our relationship because of my male pride – I didn’t want to move over to the States to be with her if it met having her work to take care of me, if it meant having her family take care of me – with me to only do small odds, and ends around the house for family, and friends. I mean what kind of a man I kept thinking would I be if I just picked up to move there, so that Elisha would work hard to take care of us, to work hard to take care of expenses – I want to contribute, I want to be a Man, I want to take care of my responsibilities, and her family has been so accepting of me that I’ve just been a moron. My family, they just feel like Elisha is taking me away from them, but, their biggest problem with Elisha, and I getting married is that I want to leave their business behind, that I want to make a honest wage, that I want to have a secure, and stable job, future, life for Elisha and I. I’ve been so damn lost, since all this stress I’ve been struggling with, I’ve been keeping with myself, because I have to deal with this – to me this is life. I’ve always coped, and dealt in my own manner – which if a person looks at my arms – you’ll notice that I’ve been unsuccessful to cope and deal with it for years. I’ve managed to stop pretty much cold turkey from causing myself harm, and soon it’ll be a year, a whole year that I’ve struggled with life, that I’ve been happy, that I’ve managed to cope with life – better than before.
Then today, Elisha went home . . . . without me. I’m an emotionally wreak. I’m devastated, I came in the house in tears, I went to my room, and cried. I haven’t meant to put such stress on her, to have her give me her heart so that I can keep getting her hopes up, to only have them let down. She cried so hard this afternoon when it came time to say good bye, that just thinking about this afternoon I’m starting to fall apart again. I’m sure some people understand, but my family – they don’t understand how hard the distance is on us, how hard things are on our hearts. I’ve been idle by in hopes that my family would give me the money that I’ve worked hard for, that I’ve been trying to reclaim, in the excess of ten thousand dollars. Elisha wants me to walk away from it, but this is money that can pay the four thousand dollar expense of me immigrating to the United States, it can be a big stake to pay the wedding expenses, and most of all – it can help to get our life started – together. How do you walk away ? How do you forget ? But mostly, how do you walk away when you know if you walk away before the wedding, some of them will go to your wedding but two people – the people who raised you, would be so hurt, they wouldn’t go to the wedding ? That’s been killing me, how do I walk away from them knowing to do that – they will not be at the most important day in my life, the most important day in Elisha’s life. I’ve been falling apart, and with stress things only get harder for me, I have such a hard time dealing with stress. Yet, from the P90X Kenpo X post until know, something even bigger has changed, I may be a father. I know Elisha will read this, and get upset since we just don’t know fully yet, she took a test, and it turned out negative, but her family, her mom, and grandma both of which I love dearly – think that I may be a father. In all fairness, I am not upset by this, but I am taken by surprise by it, I am anxious, I am happy, I am sad, I am worried, I feel guitly, and I feel lost by it all. I am trying to make sense of everything, and I found that writing it all down, makes me feel somewhat normal since I am dealing with all my stresses in a manner that doesn’t take it out on myself, that doesn’t put me at risk. This is just my kind of way of feeling like other people, feeling somewhat normal – when a lot of the time I just don’t. I’m just trying to explain where I’ve been for the last few days, whats been up, not trying to make excuses but to explain to all of you – my friends – whats been going on, where I’ve been, why I’ve just felt so lost. When I was told that I may be a father, I have been going through all the motions of my daily routines, so lost in thought, especially since we are so far apart from one another, I’m not much of a support for Elisha, in her daily life. I can’t do the simple things with her like hold her at night when she is not feeling good, we can’t comfort one another – because I make things so damn hard for us, I’m the one who can’t get it out of my head that to be together will involve sacrifices, but in all the time I’ve been preparing myself to be without family, I just can’t bring myself to possibly say good bye forever to them, since I feel – and I know in my heart that I will be disowned by my grandparents the people who raised me, for leaving the business behind to move on with my life, to put myself first instead of them like I’ve been doing for the last five years. Today, I finally made a decision that I will be starting to gather up my personal belongings, and packing it up so that I can move my essential things so that I can be with Elisha. She wanted me to leave today with her, but I just couldn’t . . . I put my family first . . . again – instead of her. What in God’s name am I doing ? I’m such a damn idiot, and I’m sorry to everyone. Will I get back to P90X ? Yes. And right now, I’m just starting to hurt again, my head is aching, and my heart it feels like it is breaking. I am sorry to all of you. I am sorry to everyone, even to you Elisha – I am sorry for making you cry, and getting your hopes up just to bring them crashing down.
Ok James,
I think we all understand you have a lot of things going on and have been going on for a number of years. This is primarily a work-out blog (specifically a P90X blog) so I’m going to hit it from that angle. I don’t think any of us here who read and post know you well enough to be able to comment on your personal life, but we all have issues or another that weigh upon us, and basically that’s life. Here’s something I learned, miserable people have tough lives, but successful people have tougher lives. You don’t succeed in wallowing, but you succeed by overcoming.
There are things you have you do for yourself that nobody else can interfere with, things as essential as breathing, eating, and your well-being. Your health, emotionally and physically, must become a priority in your life. Needing to exercise is as necessary as needing to sleep. Others will criticize you, will admonish you, but that’s only because they only know the OLD James – the self hater, the quitter. It’ll take time for them to get to know the NEW James, the healthier, more confident person.
By the way, to get there takes a lot longer than 90 days, but the P90X program is a step in the right direction. Once you start to see improvements in your health, others will thereafter. They’ll then understand you’re serious about your health, and will help you succeed.
James,
I am not sure there is much I can add to Steve’s excellent comments so I will just reinforce. The important thing to remember in all of this is that “life is what happens when you are waiting for life to happen.” There is never going to be a time when there isn’t something going on that could give you grief. Successful and happy people understand this. So when things come up, they address them head-on, make a decision, and move on. It’s just life – people die, people are born, car accidents happen, we get married, we have unplanned pregnancies, we do the right thing, we make mistakes (and learn from them), we have stunning successes; we have debilitating defeats (hopefully very few). It’s life. This is it, man. This is the big show. There is no dress rehearsal. It’s also not a one-man show. People here have some sympathy for your situation, but we also have our own things we are dealing with. This isn’t The James Show where everybody else is an extra in the story of your life.
Our fitness and health is a non-negotiable in that regard. Living our lives and dealing with the bumps in the road and being fit are not mutually exclusive. Taking care of ourselves allows us to better deal with the drama of life. My “big deals” just aren’t that big of a deal to me. I can’t live my life bathed in anxiety (cortisol – http://stress.about.com/od/stresshealth/a/cortisol.htm ), fear, and doubt. Your problems only have as much power over you as you give them.
(I feel like a motivational poster catalog.)
You are a young man and you have your entire life in front of you. You have to do what is right for you right now. Your family still loves you, no matter what you do. And despite the tone of your post, your family will be happy as long as they know that YOU are happy. It’s the way families are. Don’t let other people’s expectations (real or imagined on your part) dictate how you run your life. Decide to be your own man, or decide to live for what you think other people want from you – but make a choice and be happy with it. Every single person who lives in a free country has to make that decision on their own. I did it, Steve sounds like he’s done it. I’m sure Corey did it. You sound like you want to be your own man and do what you think is right for you. So do it.
Now.
And again, Steve is absolutely right when he says that the 90 day plans are just a start. We’ve all said it at least once in here. This is why I went for P90 before P90X – I know that I will never go back to my Old Mat lifestyle. So I’m not in a big hurry finish any kind of program.
You really just have no idea what getting control of your health and fitness will do for your emotional health: You will become a new person, you will be happy almost all the time, the things that made you sad or mad or frustrated won’t anymore, you will have the confidence to get that great job or stand up to your parents or whatever, and you will feel good (eating right will do that alone). I promise.
Life just isn’t that hard, man.
Mat
Been there. Done that. To a point.
I met my wife on the intarweb. I live in South Dakota and she lived in Washington. Long story short, I moved back home (California) and lived with my folks for a couple months, then moved up to Washington to be with her. My folks were furious but it was my life and I did what I needed to do. Things worked out great and my parents came to our wedding.
Dude! You have a wonderful girl waiting for you but she’s not going to wait forever. Get your sorry ass down there and be with her. None of us know how long we have on this planet. Why waste another day?
Money is just money. In the end it can’t buy you happiness and when you are away from Elisha, you are miserable. No matter what happens where you are now, you aren’t going to be truly happy. The only way to achieve that happiness is to move. Pack up your car or whatever and hit the road.
She obviously doesn’t care about any of the crap you are worrying about. We are hardest on ourselves but you need to give that up for a bit. Quit thinking you aren’t good enough or you will convince her of that. Get your ass down to her, find your happiness again, and then rededicate yourself to getting in shape before the wedding. There’s still time!
And don’t be shy to post on here. Yea it’s a P90X blog but it’s your blog and you can post anything you want. Or if you want to keep this separate, start a journal on Live Journal or one of the other sites. I’m Blimey85 on there by the way.
Hi James,
What can i say that hasn’t been said all ready??? My story, Ill start from the end. I’m happier than i have ever been, i ‘m in love with a wonderfull girl and like you she lives a long drive away. We see each other on the weekends and i love every minute i spend with her….
I suffer from depression, or let me change that i used to suffer from depression. If someone looked at me i would wonder what was wrong with me and if someone said something i didnt like i would spend days even weeks worrying about it and wondering why they said it to me.
Life changes and i am on the upward curve and will never be like the old me again. I was 338lbs last August, i am currently 248lbs and training harder than i have ever trained. Now im a big bloke and have been all my life, before i got injured playing rugby i always weighted in between 240lbs and 260lbs, at that time i trained mondays, tuesdays and thursdays and played 2 games at the weekend so i was big but i was fit…
Now today i am hitting new levels of fitness i believe by september i will be on the rugby pitch for the first time in 8 years and i will be stronger and fitter than i ever was before.
People might laugh at this but alot of things are involved in making a change in your life. You can’t care what others think! Never….
If they are true friends or family they will support you in everything you do no matter what.
The most important thing that has made me succeed this far is that i have finally won my battle. What battle am i on about???? It is the battle with my own mind. I have won and now controll everything that enters it. I haven’t had a bit of negitivity for a few months now.
There is several different things that helped me get where i am…
The Secret – DVD or Book
The Law of attraction – by Esther Hicks
And i found this a great read about body transformations and its so so true… http://www.t-nation.com/readArticle.do?id=1846703
You have to get mad with something, with yourself mostly. I still am even though im getting into great shape.
I have not started P90x yet but have my own blog that i need to write in my posts for the last 5 days, have them on paper but was away.
http://www.p90x.ws
I am in a stage that im calling “P90x Preparation”. For example today i went for a 2 hour walk came home had a little rest and did a little around the house and then hit the gym an hour later. I did a full body workout which took 1hour 10 minutes and i feel great after it….
I posted info on bodybuilding.com’s forum and some people basically laughed say how the hell are you doing P90x at your weight but did they read any of my blog no if they had they would have seen im building up to it. But the reason im building up and not just jumping into it is im awaiting delivery of my chin-up bar some bowflex dumbells and a few other thinks. I know in my heart i can do P90x as when i train i have to feel it, it makes me feel alive…
I didn’t even go into all the things i wanted to say about my history and why i was so depressed but who wants to listen to my sad story.
Lift your head up and ask yourself.
DO I WANT Elisha TO BE MY WIFE???
DO I LOVE HER???
Could go on and on but i would say you get my point. Get off your ass and move down to her. Things will change be positive. And if your family don’t got to the wedding forget about them, i know it is hard and will be but it will prove to you that there not worth being family. Build your own with Elisha and live your life to the full.
If you decide not to continue with the P90x do as the original owner of this blog did and hand it over to someone else…
Read those books though will help you alot…
Sorry to hear about the rough times you’re going through right now. Hang in there and take everything one day at a time, things will work out for the best.
How we doing out there, James?
You know, when you emigrate to America, we issue you a genuine pair of cowboy boots, cowboy hat, and a big block Chevy pickup. Not a bad deal, if you ask me!
So c’mon down, pardner! Weeeeee HAW!
Good luck in your endeavors.
What Mat left out when he shared the secret of what you’ll get when you come down, is that the whole deal is sponsored by Big Oil. That big block Chevy isn’t exactly a cheap piece of machinery to operate. Sure it sounds real perty with that nice shiny 454 under the hood but what you’ll hear more often is the cha-ching sound at the gas pump as you drop $120 every couple of days to keep her on the road. lol
Sorry about the tough times. Sometimes it’s hard to stay on track when you have other things weighing on your mind. Keep your chin and you’ll be able to get through this.
Check out my journey through the P90X program at: http://hardbodygeeks.blogspot.com
Hej James,
i´d recommend to you to be more egoistic. take a look at yourself, search for a hobby, that you enjoy and enjoy your life…the situation with your darling will solves automatically then.
Hi James,
I am not doing P90X but I am thinking about getting it for my husband and ran across your blog while researching it. I feel like I should comment on the personal stuff in your last entry. You are like my husband and we went through a lot of the stuff you are now. His destructive behavior has nothing to do with cutting but it is very damaging to him in other ways. I am going to give you a female point of view and I hope that it helps even though I don’t really know you or Elisha.
The first thing is to decide want you want from your life and go after it. Figure it out before you move to be with Elisha (if you move next week make your plan this week). Put together a plan. Figure out what you need to do with your life to make you happy outside of your relationship with her because if yo rely completely on her to make you happy there is going to be resentment on both sides when she can’t do it all the time. Go back to school (you could even find a school in the US) or try to do something you are passionate about. It is important to all women to feel secure and that is not always about money. She needs to know that you are not going to hurt yourself and that even if you are not the breadwinner at first that you are going to support her in everything she does. Honestly, until you get yourself straightened out I don’t know if you can do that for her.
Secondly, you are not in a healthy place with your family. They need to support you in the things that make you happy. If driving a delivery truck for little to no money with living in a different country from the woman you love doesn’t make you happy then you need to make a change. Have faith that your family will see what is best for you. You need to sit down with them and tell them that your life needs to change and it has nothing to do with them or their business that it has to do with you and where your life is going. Tell them that the best thing in your life lives in the US and that is where you have to be. I think that they will understand but if they don’t you have to decide if Elisha is worth it and make a stance.
Thirdly, you need to stop living in fear. You seem to fear yourself, fear being alone but at the same time fear taking the step to be with someone who truely loves you warts and all. It seems like it is easier (notice I didn’t say less painful) for you to let your circumstances with your family decide your life for you.
I agree with Gary, you have no idea what tomorrow is going to bring. You need to take control of YOUR life and turn it in to what you want it to be. You deserve that, Elisha deserves that, and if you are going to have a baby he deserves it too!!
I hope some of this helps and that I was not too harsh. Take care and I am praying for you!
Wow, that took an unexpected turn.
I’m at work currently reading to get back in to the p90x, i usually go to these blog sites to get motivated. I have done it already but am feeling like getting back into it since i’m gaining weight and feeling weak (i started smoking again too). But wow i did not expect that turn in your life. I can’t really say anything to help you in your situation, but keep ranting and venting, it’s alot better to get things off your chest even if it is a p90x blog, ALWAYS DO IT. You’ll get a lot of support here, and remember everything will eventually blow over and things will start looking up.
-Kevin
“Every little thing is going to be alright”- Bob Marley
Just wanted to emphasize what Matt said. Some parents just won’t let go easily. Well, sometimes it takes a hard jolt, liking making a choice for yourself, to get them to see that they are being overbearing weirdos. I got married against my parents wishes, and yeah they were upset for a month, my mom cried at the wedding like it was a funeral, and it sucked for a few weeks. Now, my parents and I have a great relationship, based on mutual respect. And you know what earned that respect? Making my own choice even though it wasn’t what they wanted, even though they threw a hissy about it for awhile.
As for money… You will never have enough. Sounds like they have owed you 10k for a long time and if you haven’t convinced them to pay you by now, what makes you think the next few weeks, months or years will make a difference? As newlyweds you guys can both work and live cheaply, and if you are in love you will make it work. The business over the 10k can be conducted over the phone and internet. If you can’t work it out that way, then you can pursue legal action if the debt is verifiable. If it’s not, then it’s probably time to walk away. Just keep in mind, millions of people have gotten married and started out without $10,000 in the bank, myself included.
Now this may sound harsh but it is probably the most realistic advice I can give: You have a lot of reasons not to go after your girl, and to me, it sounds like a pack of excuses. You have a roadblock to every possible solution, and an artificial moral high ground to retreat to, so that you are feeling just as tortured as she is. With your history of depression, it may be really hard to do a radical self evaluation and take a look past the symptoms at the root of the problem. But for her sake, you have got to try. You have to ask yourself, who are you? What defines you? Your love, passion, the way you were raised? Where have you been? How have your parent’s treated you? How has your girl treated you. Where are you going? What do you REALLY want? Your parent’s approval or the love of your woman? I don’t know if this helps, I hope it does. Just remember, moving out with your girl may not be right for you, but parents aren’t always right, no matter what the want you to think.
James, I feel you. I have been an on and off user of p90x (Despite watching my body transform I am currently off the program due to a weight requirement for a new job. While doing the program I ate a high protien diet,lowered my bf % but gained weight, so now i am just sticking to diet/cardio with plans to resume the program after I reach goal weight). As far as your situation my best advice is: If you truly love her don’t loose her. Thats what I did and I have never been the same.I had always and will always battle weight and addiction. I met this girl who changed my life. She was great, everything I had ever wanted and more, but I couldn’t committ and I couldn’t stop the addictions. That is how I escaped, thats how I coped, and thats also how I went from 180lbs to 260lbs in 13 months. She wanted me to change, and wanted to help me change, and when we were together the storm clouds had silver linings. But I couldn’t make the most important decision in my life. I made every excuse, because I was afraid of something good in my life, Afraid of what I needed. Then one day she was gone. That was four yrs ago. Saw her recently at a resturant and all she gave me was the saddest smile I have ever seen and went back to talking to the guy she was with. For a long time I blamed her for all the hurt she put me through. However through a mutual friend I recently learned how much she went through: The hurt when I yelled, taking my keys so I wouldn’t drive drunk, staying with me through the night to make sure I didn’t die from all the stuff I was on(By my guess I should be dead 4 times already due to OD’s. God’s Grace will never cease to amaze me) She was hurt in ways I will never understand. I could have stopped my destructive behavior then and maybe we would still be on speaking terms. For me it was part of becoming a man, only learning by going through the worst years in my life. After she left I slipped further into addictions. I was a college dropout, nearly homeless, and broke. Thats how I knew I hit bottom. I had lost the girl I loved, a scholarship to a great university, and almost a roof over my head. I stopped drinking and got a full time job. I worked Nights and went to school during the day until I got my degree. I am transitioning into a great career, following my passion to help people. Thats the best part about America “the pursuit,” if you work hard you can find a job, pay the bills, support the family without a lot of money to start, as long as you want it bad enough.Do you? I think deep down you do, and even though I don’t know you at all this might just be the best thing in your life. Go Get her, don’t make my mistakes! Don’t let excuses and fear rob you of happiness! Stop hurting yourself and her. AS far as your family support you need to do what is best for you, otherwise someday you might resent them for “stopping you.” Ultimately I think they will happy if you are happy, and if nothing else they will respect you for standing on your own 2 feet, claiming what you want out of life, and going to get it. I had to learn this the hard way by almost loosing everything, YOU DON’T HAVE TO!! As far as working out, I find it helps with stress, I feel better, I look better, somehow it brings me peace because for 1 hour I can slip away into a routine and clear out my head. p90x will be there when your ready. You will be surprised how much better you will feel. TO everyone else reading this I am sorry. I don’t know why I shared all this except for the fact that I identify with suffering, and maybe I will inspire someone else who reads this along the way. If you want it bad enough, have some faith, and work your ass off, then you can reach your goals be it fitness or otherwise. The hope for a better tomorrow doesn’t have to be just a hope; it starts with today.
Your a frickin retard…….I’m glad I didn’t waste my time reading all of this and only made it through a few lines…….get a friggin life. Ohh by the way…..EVERYONE has bad days…..so get over yourself. Buck up and BE a man. Dont just wish you could be. That is a choice YOU have to make…………Geesh…how lame. I pity you
Sounds like you have some issues bro… If you’re looking for advice on the P90 program… Go for it!!! Hit it hard and fast, kick it when it’s down and take no prisoners!! Your own worst enemy is yourself!!
If you’re looking for advice on your woman… Let me tell you a story about a friend of mine….
To protect the “innocent” I’m changing this guy’s name to Curly. Curly grew up being picked on in school. He was the typical outsider that no one really cared if he lived or died. He was funny looking, fat, and had no sense of style. Well, after high school, Curly changed his ways. He started working out hard, dressing like a “cowboy”, and eventually got married to a woman he thought was great. She was the first person to sleep with him… And he married her… Go figure…
Well everything started off great for them. He went off to work driving a semi cross country, and she stayed at home and cheated on him.. He was oblivious to the situation and all was right with the world, because she was/is a tramp and he was/is an idiot. Another friend of ours, whom we shall call Larry, moved in with them and was sleeping with the tramp while curly was gone away… Larry soon realized he needed to move out so he moved in with a chick 50 miles away. Eventually she left him and moved out of the house because she needed time to think about crap…
Eventually they divorced and Curly was tore up about it. Larry realized the error of his ways and confessed to Curly that he also slept with the tramp. Curly was upset and told Larry that it was “ok” and he was more upset with the tramp than Larry…
For this type of drama, you’d normally have to stay home from work and sit through a tampon commercial…
Well, Curly eventually got over it and moved on… To older women… Women twice his age to be a little more exact… Once again all was well and Curly was getting laid on a regular basis until one fateful day when his older girlfriend went away for a night and left Curly at home with her daughter… Her daughter was also much older than Curly…
So after more drama, Curly was dating older chick #2 and #1 didn’t have a problem with it, because of some BS about her being dead when he’s 50 or some shit…
Well chick #2 had issues… A lot to be exact… She kicked him out of the house one day and decided she needed to go away and think about “things”… This went on for a couple months and Curly and I had a fairly good time hanging out, even though he was depressed and crying like a little kid that just lost some candy to a stranger in a knife fight… Eventually she took him back and all was right with the world once again… Until she killed herself.. D’oh!!!!
Once again Curly is depressed and feeling sorry for himself sitting at a bar alone, cuz I’m tired of his shitty drama. Well he has once again found the love of his life, except he found her in a bar with her older daughter, both of which were getting trashed… Did I mention that these two chicks are also older than he is?
It’s at this point in the story that I have to end. Events are currently unfolding from this point of the story on and Curly just doesn’t seem to get it… I doubt he ever will…
Curly’s problem is that he can’t function by himself. He can’t get along unless he’s got a steady piece of tail waiting for him. Not only does he have bad taste in women, he also feels sorry for himself when he has a chance and has no regard whatsoever for his emotional well-being.
Now for my advice…
1. Learn how to get along by yourself.
2. Learn how to read people.
3. Before you get married or move in with some chick, make sure you know exactly who she is…
4. Be a man.
5. Suck it up dog.
6. Finish the damn program.